You plan your days, weeks and goals. You plan your educational path and college choice. You plan for career goals. And of course, your relationship and marriage. From planning the type of people you date, your engagement to your wedding day to the rhythm of your marital home.
But what happens when your well thought out plans go awry? When your planning feels like it was for nothing? What happens when you fail?
Do you plan for potential failure? Do you plan how the divorce will proceed? Do you plan how your career will shift as a newly single parent? Do you plan for lonely nights? Do you consider these failures when planning the future?
If you find yourself in an unplanned failure, let's try reframing the failure as an obstacle to be overcome. As an unexpected challenge. As a creative opportunity. As a gift to revisit your goals and dreams that just maybe were buried with marriage, a career and children.
I "plan to fail" by having a folder titled "If Something Ever Happens to Me." I am the primary financial planner in our family. If I pass away or become incapacitated suddenly, I want one less thing for Ben to have to worry about. On the flip side, he handles all of our maintenance and repairs for our home and rentals. If something were to happen to him I have a file of whom to call to handle all of the duties as they arise.
I believe that planning to fail is equally as important as planning to succeed. Planning to fail allows us to fail without capsizing our entire life's proverbial ship. It allows massive failures to appear as small blips on our timeline. It allows us to recover and pivot faster to still succeed, albeit on a different course.
If planning to fail is overwhelming, send me a message to book a complimentary session to talk about where to start! I love helping people creatively explore their options for their lives.
Don't we all wish it was so simple? "I'm going to get organized!" we proclaim to ourselves, our friends and family. And it lasts maybe a day. A week if we're lucky.
I recently had the opportunity to join a continuing ed course on time management with Steve Schleupner, a fellow Certified Divorce Coach. He spoke prolifically about the value of morning and evening rhythms and routines. At the end I was motivated and inspired to take action.
I generally am a morning person but COVID changed that for me a bit. I tend to be more tired and have valued sleep and rest more. I'm not sure why, perhaps its a slower pace of life but nevertheless, it has impeded on my early riser style.
I began this week by setting my alarm at 5:30 and NOT hitting the 'snooze' button! As my friend, Molly Pflederer says, "hitting snooze is your first failure of the day!" It's a hard truth to hear but she is so right! So, I'm trying. Is it weird that Molly is the first person I think of now each day when my alarm goes off? She's right there in my head telling me to not fail and just Get. Out. Of. Bed!
I also picked up a new planner. Not just ANY planner. But a Goal planner....and it's GOOD. I've linked to it below. It comes in all sorts of beautiful colors; I chose the blue one for myself and brown for Ben. It has space for yearly, quarterly, monthly and weekly goals. There is space for a (small) vision board. It even has a life map to help determine what I most want and how to get there! I've just started working on it this week. I want to be thoughtful so I'm doing this after my morning pages (more on those later) but before I meditate (more on that later too.)
Do you have a planner you love? What do you look for in a planner? Leave a comment below and let me know! What are your favorite tricks to get organized and STAY organized?
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