One of the most common yet shame-filled reasons for seeking a divorce is the sense of simply "living as roommates" rather than as a married couple. It’s a feeling that clients often hesitate to share with a divorce coach or their divorce attorney because they fear it’s not a “real” reason for divorce. But the reality is, many couples reach a stage where they experience *nothing* – no passion, no meaningful conversations, no intimacy, no empathy, no excitement, and not even arguments. It’s just a persistent, empty silence that grows over time.
Roommate Syndrome
The cycle leading to this “roommate syndrome” often starts innocuously. A couple gets married, perhaps aware that things aren’t perfect but hoping they’ll get better. They decide to have children, and suddenly, the small annoyances magnify. Over time, these minor irritations are pushed aside or ignored. The issues may be addressed briefly, only for promises of change to fade away.
My Work as a Divorce Coach
Is Roommate Syndrome a Valid Reason for Divorce?
As a divorce coach, I encounter many individuals who struggle with guilt and shame over the thought of divorcing under these circumstances. They feel that since there hasn’t been abuse or infidelity, they “shouldn’t” be so unhappy. But I can assure you, through countless divorce coaching sessions, that this situation is far more common than most people realize. The strain of “roommate syndrome” can be emotionally exhausting and profoundly isolating, especially when one partner is ready to make a change and the other is content with the status quo.
Who’s Fault is the Divorce?
Navigating "Roommate Syndrome" in Marriage
Lisa and Mark (not their real names) had been married for almost twenty years when Lisa first considered divorce. They’d built a life together, raised two children, and had all the trappings of a “successful” marriage: a comfortable home, shared family memories, and close-knit friends. But behind closed doors, Lisa felt an ever-growing emptiness. For years, she and Mark had lived like roommates rather than partners. Conversations centered around schedules and bills, intimacy had become a distant memory, and laughter seemed to have disappeared along with their shared dreams.
At first, Lisa shrugged it off as a phase. “We’re just busy,” she told herself, “It’ll get better.” But as the years passed, the feeling deepened. She tried initiating date nights, bringing up the idea of counseling, and even asked Mark for more quality time. Mark’s responses were polite, though indifferent. He would nod along, make promises, and occasionally put in a half-hearted effort, but they’d always end up right back where they started: a life of “nothingness.” As their children grew older, Lisa started planning to wait things out until they graduated, thinking it was her only option. She didn’t believe her feelings were “serious” enough to justify leaving – after all, Mark wasn’t abusive, unfaithful, or neglectful in any overt way. The shame she felt over the idea of leaving just because they “weren’t in love” anymore kept her stuck. Then, she reached out to a therapist on her own. In their first session, Lisa was hesitant, feeling embarrassed to admit she was unhappy without a “real” reason. But as she shared her story, her therapist validated her feelings and reassured her that this “roommate syndrome” was more common than she realized. “Many couples find themselves here,” her therapist said, “And there’s no shame in wanting more for yourself.” Lisa then hired me as her divorce coach and through the divorce coaching process, Lisa explored what she wanted for her life. She was able to process the guilt and fear holding her back and make a decision aligned with her values. For the first time in years, she felt a sense of hope for the future. I helped her plan the next steps, including how to approach the topic with Mark and prepare herself emotionally and financially. While Mark was initially taken aback when Lisa brought up the idea of divorce, he eventually admitted he, too, had been feeling disconnected for a long time. With guidance from me, Lisa navigated each stage of divorce with confidence, knowing she wasn’t alone in her journey. Now, with a renewed sense of purpose, Lisa’s future felt more open than it had in years. The coaching had empowered her to recognize that she wasn’t selfish for wanting more – she was simply honoring her own need for connection, joy, and fulfillment. But How Do You Really Know If Divorce Is the Next Step?
So What Do You Do?
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Although it’s still beautiful fall weather, I recently re-read *Wintering* by Katherine May. As someone who loves winter, I was immediately drawn into her imagery of cozy blankets, flickering candles, and the comforting warmth of a hot toddy. But the book’s purpose goes beyond these cozy winter scenes. May explores “wintering” as a metaphor for facing the hardest times in life—job losses, illnesses, parenting struggles, and other challenging periods. Her book shares her own wintering experience and, as I read it, I couldn’t help but think of my own dark seasons as well as the ones my clients are navigating now. I wish I had read this book two decades ago!
My Work As A Divorce CoachHow my personal experience shapes my work
Divorce GriefThe unique weight of divorce
High Conflict DivorceA mix of big emotions
Crippling Shame and GriefThat stops you from progressing
Understanding this struggle, I’ve created a course called *Trail Guide to Navigating Your Divorce.* This course is designed specifically for those who may feel too embarrassed to talk openly about their divorce, yet still want structured, compassionate support. The course provides step-by-step guidance to help you manage the emotional and practical challenges of divorce at your own pace. With *Trail Guide to Navigating Your Divorce,* you can access vital information, practical tools, and the comfort of knowing you’re not alone—all without having to discuss your journey directly if you're not ready.
If you’re hesitant to reach out in person, this course is an affordable and discreet resource that helps you move forward with confidence. You’ll find strategies for addressing grief, tools for rebuilding self-esteem, and guidance on navigating each stage of the divorce process. Taking this first step, even privately, can be a powerful act of self-care and a pathway toward healing on your terms. What Does A Divorce Coach DoWhen clients are facing grief
"Throwing in the Towel"
"Giving Up on a Good Thing" "Walking Away from Marriage" "Marriage is Hard Work… You Just Need to Try Harder!"
All of these phrases get used by people who don’t understand why a couple decides to divorce. As a divorce coach, I often hear these comments from clients whose friends and family are completely blindsided by their decision to separate. It’s already a challenging time for anyone going through divorce, but it becomes even harder when others question or judge your decision.
Not only are we working through our own emotions during a divorce, but we often find ourselves managing the emotions of those around us—family members, friends, even acquaintances. My clients frequently share that they’re put in the difficult spot of either revealing the private struggles in their marriage to justify their divorce or keeping quiet and facing judgment, because "surely things aren't that bad." Even when clients end up choosing to explain, they are often accused of exaggerating or lying. It’s a no-win situation. I deeply wish people outside the marriage would stop insisting on understanding a divorce in such detail. Divorce is hard enough without having to justify it to others. Here’s why this is so problematic:1. It’s None of Their Business
Let’s start with the basics: your divorce is your business. Period.
Just recently, one of my clients shared how their friend group had taken a very toxic stance on the divorce, blocking them on social media and refusing to hear their side of the story. While the divorce had originally been mutual and amicable, the added tension from friends was causing the situation to become hostile. This client’s spouse, who had been reasonable at the start, was now becoming difficult to work with. This will now un-necessarily cost the couple more money in legal fees and time, not to mention, added emotional strain. All because some, albeit close, outsiders think they need to understand a personal issue between two people. Another personal example: When I was going through my own divorce, I was out with some friends when a woman I had just met learned about my situation. She became wildly upset with me, saying I was making a stupid decision and couldn’t understand why I would get divorced. Imagine meeting someone for the first time and they start lecturing you on one of the most personal and intense decisions of your life! Back then, I felt the need to justify myself. Now, as a divorce coach, I coach my clients to be prepared for this sort of reaction and not feel obligated to explain their deeply personal choices. 2. Protecting Your Spouse's Image
This is a tough one. Many marriages end due to sensitive issues like addiction (pornography, drugs, alcohol), mental health struggles, or childhood trauma. Even in these cases, people often still care about their spouse and want to protect their image, even if the marriage itself isn’t salvageable.
During my own divorce, a customer at my workplace asked me out of the blue, “Why are you getting a divorce?” I was floored. It was an extremely personal question, and completely inappropriate for a professional setting. Had I revealed the private details of my marriage to him, it could have spread throughout our small town. Instead, I gave a generic answer and quickly changed the subject. 3. It’s Too Complex to Explain
Some divorces take years or even decades to unfold. Marriages can deteriorate over time, with both partners trying everything from marriage counseling to open relationships, only to find that they simply can’t stay together. These couples may seem happy on the outside, but inside, they’ve reached a point of hopelessness.
These types of divorces are the hardest for outsiders to understand. “There’s no abuse, so why are they divorcing?” “They still love each other, so why split up?” “They look so happy on Facebook!” But no one really sees the years of struggle, the emotional distance, and the attempts to repair what is broken. To outsiders, it may seem like the couple is "throwing in the towel," but in reality, it’s years of irreparable damage. What Can You Do?
If someone you care about is going through a divorce, you don’t need to know all the details. Offer your support by simply saying, “I’m here for you if you need to talk,” and respect their privacy. Helping them in practical ways, like taking them to dinner or helping with errands, can make a world of difference. Divorce is a form of grief, even for those who choose it.
If you are the one going through a divorce and feel pressured to explain, I recommend using a "grey rock" response to deflect intrusive questions. For example, “Thank you for your concern, but I don’t feel comfortable discussing that.” Having a prepared response can help you maintain your boundaries and avoid being caught off guard. Have You Experienced This?
How have you handled intrusive questions about your divorce? Or, have you ever found yourself surprised by someone else’s divorce and felt compelled to understand? Share your thoughts below.
XO- Katie Well, Hello again! It’s been a couple months since I’ve written in this space. The end of summer was busy but sweet for our family. Our son went to a three week long summer camp and upon returning it was a dash to get ready for school to start. Our daughter enjoyed every last drop of summer break swimming at the lake with her friends. While I love the easy-ness of summer, I’m always ready for the rhythm and routine of the school year to start back up! As soon as school started my consultation calendar started filling up. It makes sense that people want to wait for certain seasons to be over before embarking on filing for divorce. It’s hard to find the brain space and emotional capacity to even begin to learn about how to file for divorce, child custody laws, spousal support or dividing assets during divorce when you’re busy running kids from activity to activity. Too often, the signs of failing marriage aren’t always noticeable until they are REALLY noticeable. Emotional distance, indifference to intimacy and constant criticism can be disguised as normal day to day interactions when a couple is busy with work, household chores and children. It’s a slow fade into more and more of these issues until one day, one partner wakes up and thinks, “how did we get here? I can’t keep living like this!” While the idea of divorce seems to come out of nowhere, the process has really been percolating for months or years. If the question of “should I file for divorce?” is popping up in your head more often than you think it should be, I’d like to offer the following advice:
Before you start into the deep dive of more divorce questions (How to tell kids about divorce? How much does a divorce cost? What are the effects of divorce on children? How long does divorce take?) consider if this really is the RIGHT path for you and your family. I make every effort to help my clients have an amicable divorce. I love helping my clients divorce quickly and inexpensively. But I know that divorce is hard no matter what and if there are issues in your marriage that maybe just need to be addressed I would encourage you to seek that first. XO Katie Katie was kind and professional, empathetic and helpful in guiding me through my divorce. With her knowledge and guidance, it gave me the confidence to work with my ex to be able to navigate an amicable, quick, minimum cost divorce. It drives me crazy when I see other coaches brazenly state that they “Help clients get out of their own way!” I cringe every time I read that in a social media or blog post. It feels so gaslight-y (is that a word? If not, I’m making it one!) to me. As if the ONLY reason people aren’t achieving what they want is because of their own doing. It’s their fault they haven’t succeeded yet. Oh boy. As a Divorce Coach, I have clients come to me with so many roadblocks that are not their fault. Namely, abusive spouses. Mentally abusive. Physically abusive. Sexually Abusive. Financially Abusive. Emotionally Abusive. Religiously Abusive. Sometimes more than one of those at varying levels of intensity. After enough abuse of any kind, reality is skewed for the victims. They don’t know what’s real anymore. What you or I might be able to see clearly is abuse, clients may think it is their own fault because they’ve been told that for so long. Too many coaches proclaim to be the savior and continue to gaslight and build out this narrative that the client is the problem. I refuse to do that. Here are some examples so you can recognize this if you think you’re in an abusive situation but you’re just not sure what’s real anymore. Or perhaps you’re reading this to understand how someone could possibly justify divorce when their spouse seems totally normal to you? Keep in mind, abusive spouses are MASTERS of deception. They will act one way in public, even going so far as to build up and praise their spouse (because it makes them look good, after all) but at home they tell them they still look fat/are stupid/lazy/etc. -Your spouse has a brand new sound system while you haven’t purchased a new bra or underwear for yourself for the past 10 years. If only you were better at saving money right?? (that’s me being sarcastic if you can’t read through that.) (Financial Abuse) -Perhaps you are told to continue to forgive your husband AGAIN for looking at porn instead of coming to bed. It’s your lack of forgiveness that is the sin; not his for his betrayal. (Sexual AND Religious Abuse) -”Why are you so depressed? If only you would be happier when I come home, then I wouldn’t ignore you.” (Emotional Abuse) Clients come to me unsure of what’s real and what’s not. They KNOW what they want. They are already empowered to help themselves when they contact me for a free consultation. They call me to be able to divorce well. They want SO badly to keep their divorces calm and protect their children. They don’t want to waste money by hiring the wrong lawyer. They would love to co-parent well, despite the years of abuse. They want to hold their head high at the local grocery store and not be scared to bump into someone they know. They know that other people have a skewed interpretation of their marriage. They still want to protect the image of their spouse to everyone in their community. You may not understand it. They may not tell you about the abuse. But if they do, it’s important to listen. They have been so scared to share their feelings for so long. They’ve been conditioned by their spouse to think their reality is normal. XO Katie
"I guess I'm going to have to file, because she never will even though she threatens all the time" another client sighed to me the other day. "Our life is miserable. We only talk to figure out who's picking the kids up from baseball or who's driving to swimming. And the fighting! This just is really bad but she refuses to go to therapy with me. I don't know what else to do."
When You Have to Be "The Bad Guy (or Lady)"
How is it possible that your spouse can seem to despise just the SIGHT of you so much but they refuse to just file for divorce? It feels like they live to make you miserable. They criticize, pick fights, stonewall or straight up scream about the latest mistake you made.
But yet, they refuse to go to marriage counseling. But yet, YOU are the problem. But yet, YOU are not trying hard enough. One Word: Ego
I believe Ego is the driver for most divorces. Ego stops us from seeking marriage counseling. Ego makes us think that WE don't need therapy. Ego makes us put up appearances in public and social media as though everything is just perfect. Ego tells us that WE'RE right and everyone else is definitely wrong. Ego knows that filing for divorce will make us look bad so there's no WAY we're going to do that. Nope, we'd rather be blissfully (albeit angrily) ignorant about our state of affairs.
Then What Should I do??
Are you dealing with someone who's ego prevents them from just being nice? Are you nervous every time you hear the garage door open, knowing the energy of the home is about to shift negatively? Do you walk on eggshells every time you're around your spouse to avoid upsetting them?
If they are refusing to do marriage or personal therapy, they are never going to change. Bold of me to say? I'm okay with that. They're not. No matter WHY they are like this, if they refuse to do the inner work and put in the effort, nothing will ever change.
First, even if they refuse therapy, I encourage you to find a qualified and licensed therapist. You are going to need the emotional support. Church based therapy is okay but I always prefer a licensed therapist. Church based therapy can be a great starting point but it can come with biases. It also may turn off your partner and COULD be why they refuse to go. I haven't seen enough good come out of Church therapy to outweigh the problems I have witnessed. If that's where you're comfortable, start there to fill your Spiritual needs but also look for a licensed therapist. There are many that will do religious based counseling but with more education and training to support their practices. Second, you will need to accept that they are never going to file for divorce. They would rather live miserably than have outsiders think poorly of them. I know this is a hard pill to swallow. After all, YOU are the one who is willing to work on the marriage! YOU are the one who has been bending over backwards to make this marriage work! YOU are the one who is STILL WILLING TO FORGIVE. If only they could drop their ego.... Third, be prepared to be mentally and emotionally assaulted by them. Suddenly you will be the one that has caused the marriage to fail. Not them, of course, because they are willing to stick with you through thick and thin. Through the good and (mostly) bad. You will be the one who is going to mess up the kids with this crazy divorce idea. Remember #1 above when I said you would need the emotional support? This is a huge reason why. Beginning the Divorce Process
You're going to feel a lot like this little Norway Spruce I planted. Trying to survive with some rough elements around you. Barely hanging on. But you'll see growth. You'll find the people and professionals who will care for and tend to you. You'll regain your strength and put down new roots. Your only regret will be not having filed for divorce sooner (said by almost ALL of my clients!)
If you think you are ready to start the divorce process, let's have a 30 minute call to talk about your concerns, perceived roadblocks and next steps. Take a look at my calendar and pick a date and time that works for you. If you can't find something, send a message to me and we'll make it happen!
#1 - Emotions Caused By an AffairI have ZERO judgment if someone calls me and they are having an affair. Oftentimes the affair is the RESULT of a failed marriage, not the cause of one. The marriage is already irretrievably broken for a variety of reasons. Emotional Abuse, physical abuse, financial abuse, drug and alcohol addictions, and mental health issues just to name a few all have already caused the marriage to fall apart. The victim is lost, confused, lonely and desiring love and connection. When they have faced all of these abuses and someone new walks into their life that is kind and gentle with them, it’s very easy for them to connect and fall head over heels. Emotionally speaking though, a divorce is traumatic. Even (and sometimes especially!) if someone has been abused, they still care for their abuser. They don’t want to hurt them back. They want good things for them. They want to get through the divorce peacefully and calmly. Divorces bring out a lot of emotions that are important to tend to while you’re going through the divorce. If you’re swept up in an affair, it’s a rollercoaster to manage the emotions of the divorce while also juggling the emotions of a new relationship. Usually, one set of emotions has to get stuffed and ignored. Because the divorce emotions are unpleasant, it’s usually those. Victoria Mitchell, in her book, “Surviving Grief: Enduring and Learning From the Worst Days of Our Lives”, offers words of caution about moving forward and taking risks with another relationship. “I recommend waiting six to twelve months to get involved with someone new. You’ll be lonely. You’ll feel needy. You’ll be tempted. But adding another person to the mix disrupts your task of processing the grief of your lost marriage. You’re left with this work still to be done, shut down by the glow of new love. It’s also not healthy for your new relationship. In the abrupt abandonment of feelings about your divorce, much growth potential is left behind. You carry unresolved issues with you. When the time comes to venture into something new, be whole and healthy, not still wounded.” ~Victoria Mitchell If there are children involved in the divorce, it’s also important to have the emotional capacity to help them through the divorce. I’d rather see kids in a happy, divorced home than a toxic married home any day. Usually children still love their other parent even if they are abusive. They need help working through their big emotions. I always recommend to parents that they find a therapist for their children at least through the divorce and possibly beyond if needed. It gives kids a trusted sounding board to work through their emotions. Even with that, children need their parents to be emotionally available and mature for them. The kids will have big emotions and will often take these out on the parents. If parents are daydreaming about their lover and excited to get the divorce over with as fast as possible so they can move in with them, they may be less inclined to see their children’s emotions as important or valid. #2: Parental Alienation from an Affair
So what happens next? My client is trying to manage the stress of the divorce process, the butterflies and thrill of a new relationship AND children who are angry with them. This is an understandably horrible scenario to find oneself in and another reason to avoid affairs. Clients find themselves wanting to rush the process to just get it over with. They become more willing to concede to financial demands by their spouse and children. They tend to give up time with their kids because not only is time spent with them often miserable, they don’t feel like they deserve it anymore. #3 Divorce Settlement Implications of an AffairI know what I know about Divorce Coaching but I leave the legal advice for the Family Law Attorneys. Partner at Butler, Meister and Giraudo in Morton, Illinois, Attorney Kelly Giraudo shared with me: "Illinois is a no-fault state, meaning that an affair will not be a relevant factor when considering the allocation of parental responsibilities or the division of assets and debts of the marriage." At first glance, Hurray! My clients quickly interpret that their affair won’t matter and carry on with the relationship, sometimes getting TOO casual. Most likely it won’t in the sense of the final result. Where it WILL matter is in the length and amount of time it takes to get there. As soon as the opposing council finds out about an affair you need to be prepared for a massive amount of questions and paperwork known as “Request to Produce and Interrogatories”. The questions asked in these documents are required to be answered in a relatively short amount of time and they often are quite detailed. I’ve had clients have to take days off work to fulfill their responses to these requests. The requests range from additional financial disclosures to diary entries to strings of texts printed out. This is not a fun place to find yourself in the middle of the divorce. Remember, the goal is to divorce quickly, peacefully and inexpensively, while also being fair. Having this additional work added makes both attorneys' invoices jump considerably for the time needed to review and advise upon. Finding out about an affair is almost always an open door invitation for this expensive, time consuming next step. According to Chicago attorney Raiford Dalton Palmer, Partner at STG Divorce Law, P.C., "It is important to know that affairs don't matter much to courts in many states - the "why" of a divorce is not important in Illinois, for example. Parties can't even mention cause for divorce in their pleadings (other than 'irreconcilable differences'). The only impact an extramarital affair has in terms of the nuts and bolts of divorce is financial in Illinois - that is, if the relationship involves waste of marital assets, the portion owned by the other spouse can be recovered. Note that in other states, however, an affair can be a very big deal to a court - leading to a denial of alimony, unequal division of assets, et cetera. As with anything like this, consult an experienced divorce lawyer in your area for legal advice." So while it may not matter that much in impact on the settlement, it WILL matter in how long and expensive the process is to get there. Affairs are TrickyAn extramarital affair fulfills a need that many people in failing marriages desire but come with implications that aren’t necessarily legal based. It’s easy to read what the attorneys say and think it’ll be okay to go ahead with a fling. I encourage you to consider the collateral damage that comes with an affair before engaging in one, exposing it or becoming too casual about the relationship if you have not yet filed for divorce. If the affair is already out in the open, it's important to continue to walk the path of divorce with dignity and respect for your partner that you are divorcing. They are having big emotions through the process and finding out about an affair tends to make people dig in their heels and fight more out of spite and hurt feelings. ~Katie One of the more common reasons for wanting a divorce, yet the most filled with shame is, "We just don't act like we're married. It's like we're just roommates." There's no abuse. There's just NOTHING. No passion. No conversation. No intimacy. No empathy. No excitement. No arguing. Just nothing. The cycle usually happens like this: A couple gets married and although things aren't perfect, they're not terrible. They take the next steps to have children. All of the little annoyances suddenly become BIG annoyances. But they get shoved under the rug. Ignored. Or if they are brought up, changes never happen. Sure, there might be promises and attempts for a brief period of time, but nothing sticks. One partner asks the other to go to marriage counseling. There's either a flat-out refusal or a half-hearted attempt which is usually abandoned after that partner feels attacked or like everything is resolved. So, it feels easier to go back to the usual rhythms of 'nothing.' The unhappy(iest) partner festers. He or she decides to stick it out until the kids have graduated. They learn how to put on a good facade in public but at home they barely speak. When divorce finally is brought up, the other partner appears shocked. Despite not putting in any effort or attention, they put all blame for the divorce on the partner who suggests it. A fresh cycle of shame and guilt begins again. I say all of this because often when someone calls me and shares a similar story they feel so much shame and embarrassment. They think they're the only ones to ever experience this story. They don't think they have a valid reason to divorce. After all, there hasn't been abuse or an affair. But it's FAR more common than most people realize. If you've tried counseling and tried to work with your partner and nothing has changed, there's very little point in waiting. If divorce feel inevitable, the longer you stay together, the more your finances will become enmeshed. The less time you'll have to start fresh. xo Katie 2023 started with a lot of excitement, although not in the good sense. We were sitting at home, relaxing after what felt like weeks of celebrating. Our son Finn’s birthday is New Year’s Eve so the partying doesn’t stop at our house for a while! We finally had the time to rest though. My husband was practicing his guitar and I was scrolling my phone when a text came through: “Aimee’s apartment is on fire.” Then another, “We’re all evacuating, there are four firetrucks here.” As we waited not so patiently for the phone call from the fire chief asking us to come to the property, I had a surprising sense of calm. This was our second fire in less than two years. I knew what to do. I knew who to call when the time was right. I knew it would all work out.
As I sat in this emotional space, I noticed that I had some of the same empowered feelings as I do when I help a client navigate their divorce process. I thought a lot about how much I love being that sense of calm for my clients as their marriages are figuratively burning. When I finish a consult and someone texts me a little while later thanking me, telling me that they feel like a huge weight has been lifted from their chest, I know they are starting to see how their lives can and will be rebuilt. That this crazy sense of stress, changes and unknowns won’t be like this forever. Just like checking your smoke detectors and keeping a fire extinguisher in your kitchen, you can do some things NOW to prevent major damage to your life if you do end up divorcing. -Know where all of the money is (keep a list of financial institutions with account numbers and updated balances) -Have an emergency fund (preferable) or credit card that is enough to cover the start of the divorce process ($3-7k) If you think you’re ready to start the process and you need clarity on what that will look like, contact me to schedule a free consultation. I can help guide you through the next right steps to take and empower you to know what is real. XO Katie We’ve all heard this: "Divorce is so hard on children; parents should stick it out for the kids!" Yes. It is. But so is living in a home with fights, tension, jealousy and unmet needs. A home where the kids find themselves tip-toeing around their parents. A home where the kids learn to manipulate the fighting parents to get what they want. A home where healthy relationships are impossible to model. I won't sugar coat this. Divorce IS hard on children. This is a huge reason why I do this: To help my clients be the best versions of themselves as they navigate their divorces so they can be the best versions of themselves for their children. If you or someone you know is going through a divorce with younger children, here are two books I recommend to my clients! I picked these up at our local library but they also can be found on Amazon. I always appreciate referrals! If you know someone who might benefit from my service, please send them my way! They can text or call me at 309-840-0881. |
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