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*Originally Published: January 2023*
*Last Updated: February 2025*
Just like a house fire, divorce can feel overwhelming and chaotic when it first begins. As both a property manager who has handled multiple fire emergencies and a professional divorce coach, I've learned that preparation and knowledge are your greatest allies in any crisis.
When Your Marriage Feels Like It's Going Up in Flames
I remember sitting at home one evening, scrolling through my phone while my husband practiced guitar. Our holiday celebrations had just wound down after our son's New Year's Eve birthday when the urgent text came through: "Aimee's apartment is on fire." As we waited for the fire chief's call, I felt an unexpected sense of calm. Why? Because I knew exactly what to do. I had been through this before.
This experience mirrors what I see in my divorce coaching practice. When you're prepared and have expert guidance, even the most challenging situations become manageable. Let me share that same sense of calm and preparedness with you. 
Signs Your Marriage Might Be Heading Toward Divorce
Before we dive into preparation steps, let's acknowledge some common indicators that often bring clients to my door:
- Communication has broken down despite attempts at improvement - You're walking on eggshells to avoid conflict - Separate lives have become the norm - Financial discussions always end in arguments - Intimacy and emotional connection have disappeared Essential Financial Preparations Before Divorce
Please note that if you are in an emergency or dangerous situation, you may not have time to do this. It is far more important to protect you and your children's well being than to have all of these financial steps in place. Consider these a guide but not a requirement in order to take that first step towards divorce by booking a call with me.
Emotional Preparation: Protecting Your Well-being
Practical Steps to Take Now
2. Create Emotional Boundaries
- Establish private communication channels - Maintain a journal to document important events - Practice self-care routines - Set limits on divorce-related discussions The Role of a Divorce Coach in Your Journey
As your divorce coach, I serve as your personal guide through this challenging transition. I help you:
- Understand your options - Create a strategic plan - Make informed decisions - Navigate emotional challenges - Prepare for legal consultations - Build confidence in your future I sincerely appreciated Katie's effort, communication, and sound judgement. To have her by my side providing advice from her wealth of experience, both personal, and that of her many clients, was incredibly comforting and helped me to feel like I was doing the very best I could do with the best information I had available to me. Every divorce comes with stress, and millions of to-do's, and worries, and am-I-doing-this-right's, and having Katie available as often as she was to provide the assistance she was able to provide was very helpful, and gave me the strength and confidence to keep pushing forward. Thank you, Katie! ~Amanda A, Morton, Illinois Moving Forward with Confidence
Just as I felt calm during our property emergency because I knew what to do, you can face divorce with confidence when you're properly prepared. Having helped numerous clients navigate this journey, I've seen how preparation can transform a crisis into an opportunity for positive change.
I wish I could document how many times someone calls me months or even YEARS into the divorce process, after spending tens of thousands of dollars, saying they wished they had hired me from the beginning. Instead, they thought they could handle it on their own, that the attorney their friend referred them to would work well for them and their spouse would be reasonable. Unfortunately, those friend and family referred attorneys don't often work out and spouses can get *very* unreasonable once papers are filed if it's not handled properly. An investment in a divorce coach pays dividends in cost savings, emotional well being for everyone and saves months or even years of time navigating the confusing court system. My most common package costs the equivalent of 4 attorney hours, but clients get me 1:1 for an entire year. Just think of how much they save in attorney fees! If your budget is tight, be sure to check out my course: "Trail Guide to Divorcing With Dignity" You get all of the information at a pace and time you choose. Ready to Take the Next Step?
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