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Plan to Fail

10/30/2020

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You plan your days, weeks and goals. You plan your educational path and college choice. You plan for career goals. And of course, your relationship and marriage. From planning the type of people you date, your engagement to your wedding day to the rhythm of your marital home.

But what happens when your well thought out plans go awry? When your planning feels like it was for nothing? What happens when you fail?

Do you plan for potential failure? Do you plan how the divorce will proceed? Do you plan how your career will shift as a newly single parent? Do you plan for lonely nights? Do you consider these failures when planning the future?

If you find yourself in an unplanned failure, let's try reframing the failure as an obstacle to be overcome. As an unexpected challenge. As a creative opportunity. As a gift to revisit your goals and dreams that just maybe were buried with marriage, a career and children.

I "plan to fail" by having a folder titled "If Something Ever Happens to Me."  I am the primary financial planner in our family. If I pass away or become incapacitated suddenly, I want one less thing for Ben to have to worry about.  On the flip side, he handles all of our maintenance and repairs for our home and rentals.  If something were to happen to him I have a file of whom to call to handle all of the duties as they arise.  

I believe that planning to fail is equally as important as planning to succeed. Planning to fail allows us to fail without capsizing our entire life's proverbial ship.  It allows massive failures to appear as small blips on our timeline.  It allows us to recover and pivot faster to still succeed, albeit on a different course.


If planning to fail is overwhelming, send me a message to book a complimentary session to talk about where to start!  I love helping people creatively explore their options for their lives.

Warmly, Katie
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