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Divorce Coaching: How I Can Help You Navigate Life's Toughest Transitions

9/25/2024

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Divorce is one of the most emotionally draining and complex transitions a person can face. The process often leaves individuals feeling overwhelmed, confused, and lost about what steps to take next. That’s where a divorce coach can make all the difference. 

What Does a Divorce Coach Do?

As a Certified Divorce Coach, I specialize in offering divorce coaching services that help you regain control of your life, manage the legal and emotional challenges, and move forward with clarity.
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In this blog post, we’ll explore how working with a certified divorce coach can provide the support you need to navigate this challenging time.
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What is Divorce Coaching?


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divorce coach is a trained professional who helps individuals through the emotional, practical, and logistical aspects of divorce. While your attorney handles the legalities, a divorce coach like myself will guide you through the emotional turmoil, co-parenting challenges, and future planning aspects of the process. My coaching is designed to give you the clarity, focus, and confidence to make decisions that align with your best interests.

Unlike therapy, which often delves into past emotional trauma, divorce coaching is action-oriented and forward-focused, hence, the name of my business! I help you focus on life after divorce by creating strategies to manage your emotions, set goals, and develop a road map for the next chapter in your life.

The Benefits of Working with a Divorce Coach


​If you’re considering working with a divorce coach, it’s essential to understand the wide range of benefits. Whether you're in the early stages of a split, dealing with a high-conflict divorce, or seeking to rebuild your life afterward, I can provide the necessary support in these critical areas:

1. Emotional Support During Divorce

Divorce is an emotionally charged experience, filled with stress, anger, and sadness. A divorce coach provides a much-needed sounding board, offering practical advice on managing emotions and staying focused on the bigger picture. I’ll share strategies to stay grounded, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and maintain emotional well-being during this challenging time.

For example, in high-conflict divorces, you may feel trapped in a cycle of anger or bitterness. My coaching programs offer specific techniques to manage these feelings and prevent them from overshadowing critical decisions about your future.
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2. Guidance Through the Divorce Process

Divorce is not just an emotional upheaval—it’s a complicated legal process. Many people feel overwhelmed by paperwork, court dates, and the numerous decisions they must make. A certified divorce coach can guide you through each step, ensuring you are well-prepared for what’s to come.

I specialize in offering customized divorce coaching services that align with your unique needs. Whether you need help preparing for mediation, organizing your thoughts for legal consultations, or understanding the steps of divorce, I ensure you're equipped to handle the situation.
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3. Divorce Coaching for Co-Parenting

One of the most challenging aspects of divorce is navigating the new dynamics of co-parenting. Whether you’re striving for an amicable separation or dealing with a more complex situation, working with a divorce coach can help. I offer co-parenting coachingservices that focus on creating healthy, productive relationships with your ex-partner.
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I provide strategies on how to communicate effectively, establish boundaries, and create parenting plans that prioritize the well-being of your children. My goal is to help you build a functional co-parenting relationship that reduces stress and minimizes conflict.

4. Life After Divorce: Setting New Goals

Divorce can feel like the end of one chapter, but it’s also the beginning of a new one. Many individuals feel lost or uncertain about how to move forward with their lives. A divorce recovery coach can help you redefine your goals, establish a new sense of identity, and create a plan for your future.
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I work with you to set tangible, achievable goals for your post-divorce life, whether it’s pursuing a new career, rediscovering hobbies, or simply rebuilding your self-confidence. My coaching is centered around helping you thrive after divorce, not just survive it.

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    Why Choose Me for Divorce Coaching?

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    When searching for a divorce coach near me, you’ll want someone who is both empathetic and experienced. I pride myself on being that trusted partner throughout your divorce journey.

    My coaching programs are personalized to fit your needs, whether you're going through an amicable divorce or dealing with a high-conflict situation. I offer a range of services designed to address all aspects of divorce, including emotional well-being, co-parenting, and future planning. Here’s why you should consider me:
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    • Certified Divorce Coach: I am a trained professional with extensive experience in guiding clients through the divorce process. In fact, I've even been through my own divorce!  I have a deep understanding of the emotional and practical side of the process. 
    • Customized Coaching: I don’t believe in one-size-fits-all. Each coaching session is tailored to meet your unique circumstances and goals.
    • Holistic Approach: My focus isn’t just on getting you through the divorce; I aim to help you rebuild and thrive afterward.
    • Compassionate Support: I understand the emotional toll of divorce and provide a safe, supportive environment where you can express yourself freely.

    How to Get Started with a Divorce Coach


    If you’re ready to take control of your future, I am here to help. Starting with a divorce coach is simple:
    1. Schedule a Free Consultation: I offer an initial consultation to assess your situation and discuss how my coaching can help you.
    2. Create a Personalized Plan: Based on your needs, I’ll develop a customized coaching plan that addresses emotional, practical, and co-parenting challenges.
    3. Start Moving Forward: With your personalized plan in place, we’ll work together to help you regain control and focus on what lies ahead.
    You don’t have to go through this challenging time alone. A divorce coach can provide the clarity and support you need to navigate your divorce with confidence and peace of mind.

    Final Thoughts


    ​Divorce may be one of the most difficult experiences of your life, but it’s also an opportunity for a fresh start. Working with a divorce coach can help you approach the process with more confidence, less stress, and a clearer vision for your future. I’m committed to helping you through every stage of this journey—so you can move forward with purpose.

    ​XO Katie

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    What To do before you file for divorce

    9/18/2024

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    Well, Hello again!  It’s been a couple months since I’ve written in this space. The end of summer was busy but sweet for our family.  Our son went to a three week long summer camp and upon returning it was a dash to get ready for school to start. Our daughter enjoyed every last drop of summer break swimming at the lake with her friends.  While I love the easy-ness of summer, I’m always ready for the rhythm and routine of the school year to start back up!  
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    As soon as school started my consultation calendar started filling up.  It makes sense that people want to wait for certain seasons to be over before embarking on filing for divorce.  It’s hard to find the brain space and emotional capacity to even begin to learn about how to file for divorce, child custody laws, spousal support or dividing assets during divorce when you’re busy running kids from activity to activity.
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    Too often, the signs of failing marriage aren’t always noticeable until they are REALLY noticeable.  Emotional distance, indifference to intimacy and constant criticism can be disguised as normal day to day interactions when a couple is busy with work, household chores and children.  It’s a slow fade into more and more of these issues until one day, one partner wakes up and thinks, “how did we get here? I can’t keep living like this!”  While the idea of divorce seems to come out of nowhere, the process has really been percolating for months or years.  

    If the question of “should I file for divorce?” is popping up in your head more often than you think it should be, I’d like to offer the following advice:

    1. Get counseling.  If your spouse won’t go with you, go on your own. There may be past issues from your childhood that are impacting your marriage. There could be depression or another mental health issue.  Ideally, you and your spouse can go to therapy together, but before you decide to file for divorce, I recommend you get professional counseling in some capacity. 
    2. Talk to your doctor.  Sometimes hormonal imbalances in both men and women can cause issues that impact your marriage.  If you just needed a supplement and your marriage could be reinvigorated, wouldn’t that be worth it?  Give it a try!
    3. Take a break.  Get an AirBnB for a few weeks.  Encourage your spouse to finally take that trip with a friend they’ve been wanting to do.  Get some space from each other. I know some couples have never been away from each other overnight.  You might be surprised at what a little time away might spark! My husband and I each love taking solo trips and think our marriage is stronger because of them! 
    4. Approach your spouse from a place of empathy.  Perhaps THEY have childhood trauma that is impacting their ability to be a good partner or parent.  Perhaps THEY would benefit from therapy. Remember, at one point you both loved each other.  Even though you have grown apart, you can move forward with the next steps with mutual respect.
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    Before you start into the deep dive of more divorce questions (How to tell kids about divorce? How much does a divorce cost? What are the effects of divorce on children? How long does divorce take?) consider if this really is the RIGHT path for you and your family.  I make every effort to help my clients have an amicable divorce.  I love helping my clients divorce quickly and inexpensively.  But I know that divorce is hard no matter what and if there are issues in your marriage that maybe just need to be addressed I would encourage you to seek that first.  

    XO 
    Katie

    I want to divorce with dignity and clarity!
    Katie was kind and professional, empathetic and helpful in guiding me through my divorce. With her knowledge and guidance, it gave me the confidence to work with my ex to be able to navigate an amicable, quick, minimum cost divorce.
    It was helpful for me to be able to reach out to her with any questions or concerns. Her referrals, advice and thought provoking questions helped to streamline the process. Working with Katie to learn what my options were, what was typical/normal and how to walk through the divorce was the best decision I made for myself."
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      About Katie VAndenBerg

      Katie makes her life as a Divorce Coach in Central Illinois surrounded by river valleys and prairie.  Her days are spent helping her divorce clients, working with her tenants, tending to her gardens, hiking as often as possible, spending time on her pottery wheel and loving her family.  

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