​Divorce is one of the most challenging transitions a person can face, and it often brings on new fears and uncertainties. From protecting your reputation and children to safeguarding your finances and navigating legal complexities, the process can feel overwhelming. Many people also wrestle with emotional exhaustion and the daunting question of how to rebuild their lives after divorce. These concerns are valid, but you don’t have to face them alone. As a divorce coach, I’ve helped countless clients overcome these challenges with clarity, confidence, and compassion. Let’s explore six common worries people have when thinking about divorce and how my coaching solutions can make all the difference!

Divorce Pain Point: Men and women, especially in Small Town America, may worry about how divorce will affect their reputation among friends, family, colleagues or in their community. They may feel pressure to maintain a façade of perfection while dealing with overwhelming personal turmoil. ​ ​Divorce Coaching Solution: As a divorce coach, I provide a confidential and non-judgmental space to plan how to navigate divorce while preserving their public and professional image. I guide clients on crafting narratives for sensitive conversations, handling social dynamics and setting boundaries that protect their privacy.

If you are wondering if you should get a divorce coach, let this be your sign: YES! Katie was incredible throughout the entire process. I was so lucky to come across her name in a google search, as I stumbled to find my way through my divorce. With Katie’s help, I went from feeling overwhelmed to feeling focused and in control. She has vast knowledge, caring attitude, and practical approach. You don’t have to go through it alone or take advice from friends and family that may not understand all the intricacies of the process. I highly recommend her services! There’s a saying, “Luck favors the prepared”. Katie was my lucky charm, she prepared me for the biggest decisions of my life. Thank you! ~Jessica D, Dunlap, Illinois

​Divorce Pain Point: Parents often feel intense guilt and anxiety about how divorce will affect their children emotionally, mentally, and socially. They may struggle with co-parenting plans, communication with their soon-to-be ex, or shielding their kids from conflict. Divorce Coaching Solution: I equip parents with tools to manage high-conflict situations, create child-focused parenting plans, and communicate effectively. By offering emotional support and practical advice, I help parents prioritize their children’s well-being without sacrificing their own mental health.

I am so grateful I choose to work with Katie. From the start, Katie was kind and professional, empathetic and helpful. With her knowledge and guidance, it gave me the confidence to work with my ex as we navigated the ending of our marriage. It was extremely important to us both that the process remain amicable.
With Katie guiding me, we were able to achieve a quick, minimum cost divorce. Her understanding and non-judgment bolstered me in ways I cannot begin to explain in a small review.
It was helpful for me to be able to reach out to her with any questions or concerns. Her referrals, advice and thought provoking questions helped to streamline the process. Working with Katie to learn what my options were, what was typical/normal and how to walk through the divorce was the best decision I made for myself.
Not only was it helpful for me, but my ex was able to have peace of mind knowing that I was working with Katie on behalf of us. Our 14 year marriage and 17 year relationship did not have to die in divorce courts. We were able to walk through the ending process with much care, respect, love and dignity. Our friendship remains intact and we are both stronger because of it.
Katie’s commitment to this work has been pivotal in my life story, and for that I am eternally grateful. ~Jaci M, Dunlap, Illinois

Divorce Pain Point: Divorce can feel like financial chaos, with fears of losing assets, managing debt, or not understanding legal processes. Many feel overwhelmed by the financial decisions they must make, which can lead to costly mistakes. ​ Divorce Coaching Solution: My coaching offers guidance on understanding the financial affidavit, organizing documentation and making sound decisions about settlements and support agreements. By working with me, clients gain clarity and confidence to protect their financial future.

Divorce Pain Point: Divorce often feels like a maze of legal-ese, court procedures and negotiations, leaving people confused and stressed. They may feel unsure about how to select the right attorney or understand their legal rights. They don't always know if they can trust their attorney or if their attorney really is working in their best interest. ​ Divorce Coaching Solution: I provide personalized guidance to help clients choose attorneys who align with their goals and budget. Additionally, I break down legal concepts into manageable steps, empowering clients to approach the process with clarity and preparedness. I clarify legal documents and help clients ask succinct questions to their attorneys.

​Divorce Pain Point: Many people feel emotionally depleted and isolated during the divorce process. They may hesitate to reach out to friends or family out of embarrassment or fear of judgment. The stigma of going to therapy leaves a lot of people feeling stuck. Divorce Coaching Solution: My coaching creates a safe, supportive environment for clients to express their emotions and process their experiences. Through tools, resources and emotional encouragement, I help them regain strength and resilience to move forward. My professional connections in Central Illinois and beyond help my clients find therapists and counselors if they are searching for one.

​Divorce Pain Point: Divorce can flip our lives upside down, leaving people unsure of their next steps or how to rebuild their lives. They may struggle to envision a positive future and feel like this darkness will last forever. Divorce Coaching Solution: I help clients focus on long-term goals and create actionable plans to move forward. With my guidance, they gain a sense of control, self-confidence, and a renewed vision for life after divorce.

I offer no cost consultations where we'll talk about where you are in the process, what got you to this point of calling me and how you envision your future. We decide together if it would be a good fit to work together to navigate your divorce.  My primary focus is clients who need a divorce in Central Illinois but I can work with clients anywhere in the United States! Simply put…. Katie is amazing! I chose to work with Katie 8 months into my divorce journey when the process had come to a complete standstill. I was not getting anywhere with my attorney . She gave me intelligent, thoughtful advice and the tools I needed to expedite the divorce. It took less than 6 weeks of working with Katie for my divorce to be finalized. I couldn’t have asked for better support! Not only did Katie give me the right guidance, she was very caring and checked in and followed up with me ALL along the journey. ~Kendra B, Morton, Illinois

Rupi Kaur once wrote, "I will never have this version of me again, let me slow down and be with her." This quote perfectly captures the essence of what many feel during divorce. It’s tempting to wish the pain away, but slowing down and embracing this moment can be a transformative experience. Divorce, like any form of grief, often leads us to cope in unhealthy ways: drinking too much, dating too soon, exercising excessively, or numbing ourselves with endless scrolling and Netflix binges. ​This moment may feel like it will never end, but it will—and you will emerge stronger. Be gentle with yourself. Ask yourself: Who am I during this challenging time? What do I need? How can I rebuild my life? What goals have I neglected for far too long? These questions can lead you to a more empowered and intentional future.

Divorce is hard, and Katie made the experience bearable. Her knowledge of the process and resources available to me helped tremendously. On top of it all, she recommended the perfect lawyer. I am so thankful I had her knowledge, as well as her encouragement, through the whole process. Thank you so much, Katie! ~ Wendy V.

Many of my clients have come to me feeling pressured to rush through the divorce process or jump into the next chapter of their lives. However, slowing down allows you to process your grief, rebuild your confidence, and avoid repeating patterns that may have contributed to the end of your marriage. Taking time for yourself helps you: Heal from the emotional pain of divorce. Reevaluate your goals and priorities. Build a strong foundation for your future. Ensure the needs of your kids is met.

One of the most common mistakes I see is dating too soon after a divorce. While it’s natural to crave connection and validation, entering a new relationship before you’ve fully processed your divorce can lead to unnecessary complications. Suddenly, you’re not just dealing with the emotions of your divorce but also the highs and lows of a new relationship. This can be overwhelming and counterproductive. ​ If you don’t allow yourself to work through your emotions, unresolved feelings about your ex will resurface in future relationships. Additionally, you may not be in the best mindset to choose a partner who truly aligns with your values and goals. As a divorce coach, I’ve helped many clients navigate these complexities and focus on their own healing before seeking a new relationship.

I am so, so thankful for a friend’s referral to Katie! I felt I had a pretty good grasp on the divorce process but did not trust my ex enough to not throw some curveballs. I hired Katie to be another set of eyes and ears, to reassure me that I was not overlooking anything. She ended up exceeding this expectation! She gently nudged and kept me on task. She suggested other options to consider when I was uncertain. She provided recommendations for great, local resources. She listened through my tears, my frustrations, and my worries! She was so easy to work with and to talk to! She has been a true blessing and calm through the end of my (marriage) storm! ~Buffi O. 

Instead of rushing into a new relationship, focus on activities that help you grow and expand as a person. Here are some ideas: Take a Walk: Spending time outdoors can help clear your mind and reduce stress. Join a Community Group: Whether it’s Rotary, a book club, or a volunteer organization, connecting with others can be incredibly rewarding. Learn Something New: Take an art class, sign up for yoga, or explore a new hobby. Read: Visit your local library and discover books that inspire and uplift you. Start a Garden: Connecting with nature can be therapeutic and fulfilling. Trying something new can lead to unexpected opportunities and connections. By focusing on personal growth, you’ll meet like-minded individuals and create a strong support network.

After my own divorce at 25, I made the mistake of dating too soon. Frustrated by repeated disappointments, I decided to pause and focus entirely on myself. I poured my energy into building my first business, Eli’s Coffee Shop, and moved into a tiny studio apartment. During this time, I worked long hours and joined the local Morton Chamber of Commerce, where I built lasting friendships and business connections. ​ By prioritizing my own growth, I eventually met my husband in the most unexpected way. He was a teacher who frequented my coffee shop, and we bonded over shared passions and goals. We were both in a place of healing and self-discovery, which allowed us to build a strong foundation for our relationship.

As a divorce coach, I help clients navigate the emotional, logistical, and practical aspects of divorce. Here’s how working with a coach can benefit you: Emotional Support: A divorce coach provides a safe space to process your feelings and develop strategies to manage stress and anxiety. Guidance and Clarity: I help clients set goals, prioritize their needs, and make informed decisions throughout the divorce process. Building Confidence: By focusing on your strengths and accomplishments, a coach helps you rebuild your self-esteem. Avoiding Common Pitfalls: From managing relationships with your ex to navigating new romantic interests, a coach can provide valuable insights and strategies.

When choosing a divorce coach, it’s essential to work with someone who has completed accredited divorce coach training. This ensures they have the expertise to guide you effectively. Legitimate Divorce Coach Training programs cover areas such as: Communication strategies Conflict resolution techniques Emotional intelligence development Divorce-specific legal and financial considerations By hiring a coach with professional training, you can trust that they have the skills and knowledge to support you through this challenging time.

​I am a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, which is accredited by the gold standard: International Coaches Federation. Our certification requires continuing education, as well as a Standard of Ethics and Professional Responsibility.

​You may think you need to Google for a "divorce coach near me" but I can work with clients anywhere in the United States!  While the majority of my clients are navigating a divorce near Peoria, Illinois, I have served clients from California to New York, from North Dakota to Texas.  I'd love to have a call with you to see if it's a good fit to work together.  If it's not right, I'll be honest with you!  I don't want to work with a client that I can't help navigate their divorce in the best way possible.   Work With Katie

Start by agreeing on the primary goal of the trial separation. Are you taking time apart to work on your relationship, or are you testing the waters for a potential divorce? Clarity here sets the tone for the entire process. ​One of my clients had been married for 12 years and were at a crossroads in their relationship. Arguments over small issues had become a daily occurrence, and both felt emotionally drained. When they decided on a trial separation, their therapist encouraged them to define its purpose. My client hoped to use the time to rediscover herself and see if she could reconnect with her husband from a healthier place, while he wanted to assess whether their differences were truly irreconcilable. They both agreed to individual therapy and monthly check-ins to discuss their progress. With this shared understanding of their goals, the separation provided the clarity they needed to decide their next steps with mutual respect.

I had such a wonderful experience, Katie was very helpful and kind through the whole process. I would definitely recommend using her for your divorce needs. She was excellent at guiding me through the toughest moments! - Kerry C. 

​A written agreement is crucial for outlining expectations and responsibilities during the separation. Include details like: Living arrangements Financial responsibilities Parenting schedules Boundaries around communication and dating This document acts as a reference point and minimizes misunderstandings. Tip: A divorce coach can help you create an agreement that aligns with your goals. Search for “divorce coach near me” to find a professional in your area or book a Free Consultation with me. Although I work as a Divorce Coach near Peoria, Illinois, I can and have worked with clients anywhere in the US!

Simply put…. Katie is amazing! I chose to work with Katie 8 months into my divorce journey when the process had come to a complete standstill. I was not getting anywhere with my attorney . She gave me intelligent, thoughtful advice and the tools I needed to expedite the divorce. It took less than 6 weeks of working with Katie for my divorce to be finalized. I couldn’t have asked for better support! Not only did Katie give me the right guidance, she was very caring and checked in and followed up with me ALL along the journey. - Kendra B. 

​Money matters can quickly become contentious. Discuss how you’ll handle: Shared expenses like rent, utilities, and child-related costs Joint bank accounts and credit cards Individual financial responsibilities Transparency is key to avoiding disputes.  Sitting down together (if possible) with your financial planner or a banker may also be a good way to have mutually respectful conversations about how to structure finances during your separation.

If you have children, develop a detailed parenting schedule. Include: Custody arrangements Pick-up and drop-off logistics Guidelines for attending school or extracurricular events Medical arrangements or how to address situations if your children have special needs. Communicate with your children in an age-appropriate way to reassure them during this transition. I have created a list of books that help with these conversations!

Katie was so wonderful! During what started out as a very stressful time in my life she helped me stay grounded and focused on the end result which was what was best for me and my family. She offered good advice and made herself available to talk and reassure me!
My kiddo, my kiddos dad and I thank you, we are all able to communicate better together now and make sure our child is always coming first! I would highly recommend her she works hard and is passionate to help others navigate this. - Brittany H. 

​Decide how and when you’ll communicate during the separation. Will you only discuss matters related to children or finances? Will you have regular check-ins to discuss the progress of the separation? Setting clear boundaries reduces unnecessary conflict. Check out my blog post about the Best Parenting Communication Apps to help ease communication struggles!

​Taking care of your emotional well-being is essential. Consider the following: Individual therapy to process your feelings Couples therapy to work on your relationship Support from a divorce coach to navigate complex emotions Have a set date night or weekends away to rekindle and reconnect if that's your goal.

​A trial separation is an opportunity to focus on personal development. Use this time to: Reassess your values and priorities Pursue hobbies or interests you’ve neglected Build a stronger sense of self Build friends that are unique to you and not 'couple' friends. Join a social/service organization or try a new church

​Set specific dates to evaluate the progress of your separation. Use these check-ins to discuss what’s working, what isn’t, and whether any adjustments are needed. Be honest and open during these conversations.

Be Respectful: Treat each other with kindness and understanding, even during disagreements. Stay Flexible: Be open to revisiting and adjusting your agreements as needed. Seek Support: A coach for high-profile divorce cases or a seasoned divorce coach can provide valuable guidance and perspective.

​I specialize in helping clients navigate trial separations with clarity and confidence. Whether you’re searching for the “best divorce coach” or need personalized advice for a high-conflict situation, I’m here to support you. A divorce coach can assist with: Drafting agreements and setting boundaries Managing emotional challenges Planning next steps based on your goals If you're interested in learning more about how I can support you during your divorce journey, take a look at my calendar below. If you don't see anything that works, send a message to me and we'll figure it out together!